no wonder im having a hard time at least im not the only one
VICTIMS were being treated like second-class citizens by the police, frustrated detectives said yesterday.

the force spent more time and resources on gay liaison and police bands than looking after the needs of victims.
The attack on police priorities by experienced investigators was backed by victims' groups.
One senior detective described the treatment of victims as "an indictment on the force".
"We've got 12 gay and lesbian liaison officers but only one victim liaison officer," he said.
"We've got a brass band, a pipe band, a marching band and a dance band but the victims of crime hardly rate a mention.
"Looking after victims of offences like murder, serious sexual assault and culpable driving should be a core function.
"It's disgusting what's going on and it's all dollar-driven."
The force's victim liaison manager, Rob Read, deals with more than 600 cases a year.
Mr Read's role includes organising counselling for families and friends of victims, arranging the cleaning of crime scenes and obtaining emergency cash for funerals.
A second victim liaison officer who resigned three months ago has not been replaced; nor has a third, who is on maternity leave.
Victoria Police's victim liaison office was not staffed at all last week while the one remaining member was on leave.
Another investigator said Mr Read, who has been doing his job for 17 years, was now able to attend only the most serious cases.
Most calls to police for help were referred to the Government's Victims Support Agency.
"Last week force command paid for full-page ads and expensive television commercials full of feel-good facts and figures, and the force's great relationship with the community," the investigator said.
"But they won't pay to staff this vital area properly. It's absolutely criminal what's going on."
Victims Of Crime Awareness Week chairman Brian O'Donnell said victim services would be high on the agenda at a victims' conference in Melbourne on November 11 and 12.
"I'm disappointed with the attitude of police," Mr O'Donnell said.
"We've asked them to attend the VOCAW forum and listen to the needs of victims and haven't even had the courtesy of a reply.
"The liaison officer in our case (the murder of his stepdaughter, Nicole Patterson) was absolutely superb, but he's gone."
Crime Victims Support Association president Noel McNamara said the disparity in police numbers devoted to gay liaison and victim liaison was a disgrace.
Supt Kevin Casey, head of the police community and cultural division, said the force was developing a strategy designed to better meet victims' needs.
Crime victim Olive Gully, whose security guard husband Jason was shot dead at Keysborough last year, was angered by the prospect of any change.
"Rob Read has been my No. 1 right from the start," Mrs Gully said. "They understand these things. That's their job.
"I'm very unhappy. Are they looking at people like us, or the dollar?"
John Magill, whose daughter Jane Thurgood-Dove was murdered in front of her three sons at Niddrie in 1997, said such support was vital for his family.
"Rob Read and his team were a rock to lean on," Mr Magill said.